I recently posted a blog called 30 Sayings for Fathers to Live By. In that post I quoted John Wooden as saying:
“The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”
This quote is especially appropriate as we approach Mother’s Day, a day in which we go out of our way to honor, praise, and love the mothers in our lives in a special way. I would like to share four ways to love the mother of your children everyday, and show your children that love.
Don’t think that this list is meant only for those with children still living at home—grown and married children still benefit from seeing their parents keeping love strong as they age. It gives them hope and encouragement for the future of their own marriages.
- Do your very best to schedule date-nights: I cannot overstate how important this is to a healthy marriage and virtually every professional agrees. I would schedule at least one date night a month and be sure to NOT simply discuss bills, parenting, or something of the like (unless there is an important matter to discuss away from the kids). But rather have fun, grow closer and enjoy your time together/away from the children.
- Lighthearted Flirting: I think that one of the hardest things for some marriages to keep going is flirting. Don’t be afraid to flirt innocently with your wife in front of your children, to let your children see the affection you have for each other. A little harmless flirting can go a long way in showing your children what authentic romance looks like from a young age. And flirting will likely also help keep that flame of love going strong. Remember as your children grow up in the world they will be continually exposed to the often false image what the world portrays authentic romance to be. It is your job as parents to show your children what real romantic love is and what it is not.
- Constantly thank God for your wife: I have realized that it becomes very easy to take the most important people for granted, such as your wife. How often do you thank your wife for all that she does? Do you thank her in front of your children, and encourage your children to appreciate her? How often do you thank God for giving you the gift of your wife?
- Pray Together: Women long for the emotional and spiritual sense of security that comes from a man who takes spiritual leadership. Be sure that you initiate spending time prayer with your wife, even if it’s just praying the rosary together, often. Make sure your children are aware that mom and dad spend time together in prayer about the needs of the family.
What other tips would you add to this list? How do you show your your children and their mother that you love her?