http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603/dealing-with-the-birth-of-the-second-child/ Because we need all the help we can get Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:43:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603/dealing-with-the-birth-of-the-second-child/#comment-3414 Dawnie Sat, 26 Jan 2008 01:10:00 +0000 http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603#comment-3414 Can I second Paul's advice?Everyone else has great suggestions, but when it comes down to it, you just take care of what needs to be taken care of when it needs to be taken care of. You will figure it out as you go along. A very good friend once told me that God gives you the grace to handle what's on your plate RIGHT NOW--not what WILL be on your plate in a week, a month, a year.Can't wait to see baby pics! :) Can I second Paul's advice?Everyone else has great suggestions, but when it comes down to it, you just take care of what needs to be taken care of when it needs to be taken care of. You will figure it out as you go along. A very good friend once told me that God gives you the grace to handle what's on your plate RIGHT NOW–not what WILL be on your plate in a week, a month, a year.Can't wait to see baby pics!

]]> http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603/dealing-with-the-birth-of-the-second-child/#comment-3405 John Kasaian Mon, 21 Jan 2008 10:08:00 +0000 http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603#comment-3405 Make a big deal out of it! Take your daughter shopping for a present for the new baby. Have a t-shirt made saying "I'm a Big Sister" or "I'm n____'s Big Sister" If posible have her brought in to see the baby as soon as it's born (this might not be allowed by the hospital in the wintertime with all the bad contagious stuff going around) For nocturnal stuff, it is probably going to be harder on you than your daughter (you'll never take momma's place!) Just do the best you can and pray. Don't sweat the small stuff that hasn't even happened yet(I've been there and done that!)Oh, and CONGRATULATIONS :)! Make a big deal out of it! Take your daughter shopping for a present for the new baby. Have a t-shirt made saying "I'm a Big Sister" or "I'm n____'s Big Sister" If posible have her brought in to see the baby as soon as it's born (this might not be allowed by the hospital in the wintertime with all the bad contagious stuff going around) For nocturnal stuff, it is probably going to be harder on you than your daughter (you'll never take momma's place!) Just do the best you can and pray. Don't sweat the small stuff that hasn't even happened yet(I've been there and done that!)Oh, and CONGRATULATIONS !

]]> http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603/dealing-with-the-birth-of-the-second-child/#comment-3404 Heather Mon, 21 Jan 2008 09:17:00 +0000 http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603#comment-3404 Dom--1. Have the sister on-call, meaning you can get in touch even if it IS the middle of the night. 2. Decide now who goes where. Say, during the day Isabella goes to her, but at night sister comes over?3. If Melanie has another c-section and thus can't lift a 20-pound toddler, arrange a changing station on the floor with wipes and diapers in easy reach. If you don't have that already...4. Have a backup plan in case Sister is ill or has an emergency herself. If you don't, you'll need one.As far as coping with the hospital time, it's like Paul said--you just do. I found the hardest thing about having another child was leaving the first.Remember, too--the biggest jump is from one to two. After that, it's already been done.God bless! Dom–1. Have the sister on-call, meaning you can get in touch even if it IS the middle of the night. 2. Decide now who goes where. Say, during the day Isabella goes to her, but at night sister comes over?3. If Melanie has another c-section and thus can't lift a 20-pound toddler, arrange a changing station on the floor with wipes and diapers in easy reach. If you don't have that already…4. Have a backup plan in case Sister is ill or has an emergency herself. If you don't, you'll need one.As far as coping with the hospital time, it's like Paul said–you just do. I found the hardest thing about having another child was leaving the first.Remember, too–the biggest jump is from one to two. After that, it's already been done.God bless!

]]> http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603/dealing-with-the-birth-of-the-second-child/#comment-3403 Paul, just this guy, Sun, 20 Jan 2008 20:09:00 +0000 http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/1603#comment-3403 You just do, man.During the delivery, right, drop her off with the sister, or get the sister to come over.The rest, I expect you'll find as I did, is nowhere near as hard as you expect. Fears are normal for parents in your position. But additional children are normal, too. You'll find that the first one will adapt famously. And that close together in age, you'll find, is the best recipe that the two will be good friends.Congratulations, Dom! You just do, man.During the delivery, right, drop her off with the sister, or get the sister to come over.The rest, I expect you'll find as I did, is nowhere near as hard as you expect. Fears are normal for parents in your position. But additional children are normal, too. You'll find that the first one will adapt famously. And that close together in age, you'll find, is the best recipe that the two will be good friends.Congratulations, Dom!

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