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By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 22:03:31 +0000

Im a proud Roman Catholic man that is happily married with two kids ,I love Jesus and his bride the Church ,and I need help with my porn addiction before it is to late! Please help me are most blessed vigin mother of God!

By: peter paul

peter paul — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 01:36:40 +0000

Dear lord jesus christ.
I know u are the lord of mercy & kind. I knew more about your liberation from any diseases & set free from all kind of addiction. i kow how good u are. T hough dislike to watch porn , once in a month or twice in a month fell to prey over watching porn. please set me free from this addiction & want to get annointed so that i can overcome my lust & fleshy desires. please holy spirit please fill me and pour your holy spirit up on me.please .. please pray for me . i want to live a holy life which jesus likes. he died for my sins & accept all my wickedness, guilty, lust,crimes,all my adversities,hates, enmity, pride,and etc..
please pray for living a holy life what so ever happens to me. jesus forgive my sins. i repent often but failed my transgressions,accusations filthy desires to be vanished in jesus name amen..

By: George Bhuoy

George Bhuoy — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:36:23 +0000

Indeed those are such strong points and statements. Just right to the spot. Splendidly discussed and empowered pieces of advice. Calling someone for a distraction can also be a very effective approach towards overcoming such addiction. Well your determination is undoubtedly moving. Don't get up, you'll get through it.

By: Derek Perlow

Derek Perlow — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:24:24 +0000

Alcoholism, or alcohol addiction, is a progressive disease. You grow more dependent on alcohol by imbibing it. It gradually modifies a chemical balance in the mind. Gamma-amino butyric acid is a naturally-occurring brain chemical which commands inhibitions. Anyone who's ever been drunk has experienced the outcome of the lessening in levels of GABA because of alcohol, which goes away as you become sober once more. Continued consumption of alcohol could permanently decrease the levels of this substance, leading to more alcohol use, leading to possible alcoholism.

By: J23

J23 — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 12:54:25 +0000

Thanks Sawyer. I agree with your assessment & that is why I have not yet spoken to my 9 year old boy (I do know the time is coming soon though). There is so mich at stake that I don't want to get it wrong! Part of my thinks it will be helpful for my husband to disclose to our son that he is a porn addict. The other part would hate to see that 'hero' destroyed in my son's eyes. This addiction has destroyed so much already.

Anyway, thanks for your bravery in sharing your struggles.

By: Rob Kaiser

Rob Kaiser — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:02:43 +0000

You have to speak the truth. Pornography is sinful. It degrades the person being looked at by objectifying them. It damages the person doing it in multiple ways, not least of which is a giving up their control to baser instincts. It damages and undermines the gift of sex in marriage which is a sign of God's love.

While we must be compassionate with our children- they are sinners like we are. We also must never back away from teaching the truth about pornography and masturbation – these are gravely sinful and our children can put their souls at risk.

Open discussion is important. So is regular family prayer (before you get to the age this comes up). Regular family confession is also important – our children need to go to confession, so do we, and they need to see us go.

Finally, kids need to see the proper behavior modeled, especially by their fathers. The worst thing would be for a kid to stumble onto dads stash of porn or find it on the computer where he left it.

By: Sawyer

Sawyer — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 09:50:42 +0000

To be honest, I don’t know what advice to give but I can tell you what NOT to do.

I don’t know how many times I have sat in a meeting and heard someone talk about how they discovered pornography or masturbation and either disclose to a parent because they were scared or confused or they got caught. The parent either A) Totally lays into them B) Shames them deeply C) Puts the fear of God in them (i.e. you will burn in hell)or D) flat out says NEVER NEVER do that again.

At that point, the teen draw into themselves and hide the porn or masturbation. It becomes a way to defy and have power. At that point an unhealthy context is put around normal sexual impulses. (i.e. looking at the opposite sex, not normal as in chronic pornography). They are associating feelings of shame and anger with the act. As well as feelings of power (I’ll show you, I can do this and you won’t know).

The best I can suggest, is that Mom and Dad have to acknowledge it. Let the child understand that they have been there when the hormones are raging and can identify with the feelings they have. Reinforce Catholic teaching w/o pulling out the old school “You are going to hell, its better to cut it off” lecture. I have even heard of some families trying to study “Theology of the Body” together in an effort to relay a healthy framework.

In short, acknowledge it and try to put healthy understanding and support around the feelings they are going through.

Hopefully that helps.