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Peaceful Thanksgiving

[Originally posted on Super(Catholic)Man.]

Recently, I posted a slightly snarky comment on Facebook regarding “10.2% unemployment” and “change”.

My sister responded with her own comment, which is decidedly further left than my own position.  Now Thanksgiving is coming up and, as we do each year, we will all (my brother, my sister and her “partner” and all of our respective children, spouses and grandchildren) converge on my parent’s home for the hyper-calorie fest.  There will be ham, turkey, scads of casseroles, a passel of pies and who knows what else to fill 48 hours of family fun.

What won’t be there?  Religion and politics.  Oh, I’ll be asked to lead the blessing at meals, but that will be my father’s token approval of my conversion to the Church.  They aren’t an atheistic or agnostic lot, so that helps.  But as long as we don’t cross those lines, we all get along just fine.

But when someone steps over the line, they really step into it.

So my new policy, beginning with last year’s ode to gluttony, was to reject any efforts to goad me broach these areas.  No politics or religion.  If they have a question, I’ll be happy to answer, but I won’t debate it or try to convince anyone of anything.  It isn’t easy either–both subjects are near and dear to me.

This was a tough call.  My kids love to visit the farm and make plans for “cookie week”–where all of the kids old enough to use the bathroom on their own spend a full week in December making cookies with their grandmother.  My married children bring their kids and share their own joy from childhood.  It is a special time for everyone.

[My folks are 69, so they are still young enough

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Let’s not talk about abortion.

Before you go off, I just wanted to share something that just happened to me on Twitter.

I received a tweet from @americanpapist asking us to:

Urgent: #Defund Planned Parenthood *today* –>http://tinyurl.com/lcqjcb (please RT this!!)

(RT is “retweet” or the equivalent of “forward” to the uninitiated.)
So, I did–but I used my predominantly Scouting (Boy Scouts) related alter-ego, as well as my more non-Scouting one.
Well, I received a quick response accusing me of being “tacky” for bringing up my “political” agenda. What does Planned Parenthood have to do with Scouting anyway?
On the one hand, I see the point. We could talk about merit badges, summer camp and the pinewood derby all day. Why bring up something so, well, uncomfortable in public?
Don’t get me wrong for a minute–I think the Boy Scouts are a fantastic program, and get fired up about having a Cub Scout pack and a Boy Scout troop in every parish.
The gist of the BSA’s Declaration of Religious Principle is that you have to believe in God, but how you do so is up to you. This is one of the reasons that the Boy Scouts are targeted for using government related facilites.
But bring up abortion, and that’s infringing on someone’s political feelings.
Personally, I think that more organizations and businesses should be taking a stand, even if it is a mild one, regarding abortion.

Really Good Friday

Reposted from Super(Catholic)Man.


The math is against me.

I’m 47, and my wife is not much further behind.  We have 8 kids, and through breastfeeding, they have all been roughly spaced about 3 years apart.  No charts, graphs or really other considerations.  Just God’s little joke/plan.
Good times and bad, richer and poorer, health and sickness–and always the kids.  
Our oldest is 26, our youngest will be 3 this summer.  The oldest ones have married fine people.
Our first grandchild turned 3 on Easter.  Our youngest grandchild, and fifth, is due in the fall.
Time is slipping by, and accelerating.  We keep trying to face the reality of our family finally aging with us, and not being continually renewed every third year.
Kids keep you young, but let’s face it:  At 47 my left knee, my eyesight and my stamina aren’t what they used to be.  Naps sound better than ever.  
It has probably been hardest on my wife.  After all these years, her life is changing dramatically.  She began to take classes at the community college to resume a quarter-century dormant urge.
Until Good Friday became Great Friday and the test came up positive.
The ninth time around you would think we’d know the signs.

Tithe is Money

An incredible Super(Catholic)Blog recently covered a plan to tithe and how to boost your support for the Church.  It was a brilliant move on their part and shows real editorial insight.

One commenter, Ashley, asked a question about other forms of stewardship–time and talent.  (Under “About Me” on her blog is a picture of St. Elisabeth of Portugal.  On the off chance that “Ashley” is a pseudonym for St. Elisabeth, I’m going to treat her question with haste and great respect.)

Personally, I love the idea of tithing your time and talent as well as your treasure.  
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Having the Tithe of Your Life

[Originally posted to Super(Catholic)Man.]

This time of the year (Lent) brings us face to face with sacrifice.


Give to the poor.

Take care of your brother.

Do unto others.

Does anyone else want that last incredible piece of fried chicken?  No?  Well, it shouldn’t go to waste…

Sorry, distracted.

Anyway, I’m always amazed by the relatively small offerings noted in the church bulletin.  Let’s see, 250 registered families, assume an average household income of $40K a year, 52 weeks a year, probably giving half to other charities…so maybe 5% should come to the church?

I know, funny.