I subscribe to a lot of different email lists that I find can be a positive influence in my life. Most of them are faith-based and some are health-based. One of the lists I subscribe to is by a health and fitness guy who is also a Christian, Shaun Hadsall. I read one this morning […]

Thank_you_pinned_note[1]Google does not always do right. But this time they did.

They are now rejecting ads for pornography and porn apps.

This is at least in part to the prompting of advocacy groups, like Porn Harms Action.

Catholic dads, indeed all men of faith, should support the good work of this group. Go and check them out to find out how you can help.

Randy Hain is an author (whose work has been reviewed at Catholic Dads here and here. Randy just published an article, “A Checklist for Catholic Dads” at the National Catholic Register. It would be well worth your time to read it.

happymarried2 I recently posted a blog called 30 Sayings for Fathers to Live By.  In that post I quoted John Wooden as saying:

“The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”

This quote is especially appropriate as we approach Mother’s Day….

Little Talks

June 8th, 2012

Marriage: finding the sacred in the secular. Little Talks by Of Monsters and Men.

On Dark Secrets

April 28th, 2012

Gentlemen, I have a recommendation for you. It is at a blog by a Catholic mother called My Broken Fiat. The particular post is titled My Darkest Secret. It describes the pain of a woman caused by her husband’s selfishness.

It has been said that, “the family that prays together, stays together.”  This slogan was adopted by Father Patrick Peyton and the Roman Catholic Family Rosary Crusade.  Research shows that the old slogan actually has a great deal of truth. Retrouvaille International, a highly-respected marriage-support organization, cites a 1980 study which indicates that the divorce rate for couples who attend church regularly and pray on a daily basis account for less than one divorce in every 1105 marriages (Source:  Does this prove that praying families stay together?  No, but it certainly shows that low divorce rates and praying families correlate.  And this shouldn’t surprise us.  Families that pray together must then spend time together, quality time at that, which is essential for the dynamic of any family.

Rediscovering Masculinity

September 17th, 2011

Gentlemen, I need your help.

The focus of my PhD is the question “is there a Catholic view of Masculinity?” Part of my research is reading on gender identity, particularly relating to masculinity. When I saw that the Australian Human Rights Commission (AHRS) have released a discussion paper titled “Protection from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and sex and/or gender identity” I thought I had better read it. Discussion papers are important stages in policy development in Australia so, when a body as important at the AHRS write a paper on this, you can count on somebody bringing it to parliament sooner or later.

Soft Porn for Women?

September 16th, 2011

The damage pornography does to a relationship and to an individual are well documented. I want to consider here just one of the effects of pornography on a couple and consider a possible problem not identified in most discussions of marriage.

One of the problems of porn is that it presents one partner (usually the man) with an unrealistic view of what to expect in and of a sexual partner. That is, it presents an airbrushed reality with a model who is begging to do things any sane woman would find beneath her dignity. As Simcha Fisher puts it,

If you can summon up a panting beauty just by touching your iPod screen, then why go to the trouble of getting to know an actual woman—learning who she really is, winning her love, and dedicating your life to serving her?

One of the things my wife and I have noticed in the last few years is the large number of married couples, including Catholics, in which each person views themselves as an individual only slightly connected to the other.

Their lives seem so separate that neither knows nor understands what the other is doing!